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How to save your relationship (if you want to)
How to save your relationship (if you want to)

Is your relationship about to be an EX-relationship?

If you want to prevent that from happening, here are some tips from Gurl.com:

Figure Out If It’s Worth It

Before you do anything, you need to figure out if the relationship is really worth saving. This is something you should think about on your own without anyone else’s opinion. Ask yourself a few questions: do you still love this person? Have they done something unforgivable? Are you happy with them at all? It sounds horrible, but making a pro/con list might help you figure things out.

Diagnose The Problem

Decided you want to give things another shot? Now it’s time to figure out exactly what’s wrong. You can try to do this on your own, but you should also involve your partner. Are things bad because someone is cheating or because one of you is too busy all the time? Are you guys together too much? Do you trust each other? Once you figure out the exact problem, then you can work on solving it.

Talk It Out

Confide in your partner about how you’re feeling and encourage him to do the same. Try just listening instead of starting a fight. If you guys are having an issue, you need to discuss it no matter how uncomfortable it may be. It’s not going to go away on it’s own.

Spend More Time Together

Maybe the problem is that you two don’t seem to have enough time for each other. If that’s it, then you both need to make some more time. Schedule specific days to hang out and make legit plans. For a few weeks, you may have to your partner a top priority.

Or Spend More Time Apart

Maybe the problem is that you’re both around each other TOO much. If you hang out every single day and barely do anything else besides see each other, that could actually be hurting your relationship. You might need to let each other breathe a little bit. Make plans for a girl’s night every week and have him make boy’s night plans. Have some nights just for yourself. As weird as it seems, giving each other some space might bring you closer together.

Try Doing Something New Together

Maybe your relationship has just gotten, well, boring. Don’t be embarrassed, it happens to everyone!  Trying something new or going somewhere exciting can bring a spark back to your relationship. Plan a day trip to somewhere cool that you haven’t been to before, like the zoo or a museum or even a mini vacay, if that’s possible. Instead of spending every single night out dinner and a movie, do something new and exciting to the BOTH of you at least three times a month. It doesn’t have to be huge, it just has to be different.

Maybe Leave Your Friends Out Of It

Sometimes when it comes to relationships, your friends may not be the best resource for advice…they have a vested interest in YOU!  You might need to figure things out with your partner together without letting the opinions of others affect your thought process.

Be Patient

If you’re trying to work things out and make everything better, you need to be patient. None of these things are miracle cures – your relationship isn’t going to do a 180 in a day. Be patient and wait for things to start getting better…maybe not six MONTHS, but don’t bag after only a week or two.

If Push Comes To Shove, Don’t Be Scared To Let Go

The sad truth is that we can’t always save a relationship. Sometimes things need to end, even if it makes you really sad and bummed out. If you feel like your relationship is never going to make it, it’s okay to let go. Don’t force yourself to make things work…if you’re ultimately not happy and you feel like things won’t change, or that things haven’t changed despite your efforts, then it may be time to move on.

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